Category: Teen Topics
I'm a guy and I love to give hugs!!!!
I'm not gay or anything but does anyone think its weird that I give guys hugs?
My boyfriend does that too. He and his family are all very close, he has 3 brothers and I see them hug a lot. He also hugs his male friends sometimes, and I can assure you he's not gay. :d Seriously, it may not be the norm, but I personally like a guy who's not afraid to do something like that. I think it has a lot to do with your background, how much affection you received as a child, that kind of thing. It's probably more acceptable in today's society more than ever too. What I'm trying to say is, you know you're not gay, that's all that matters, so if people try to say that, screw 'em.
Post 2 has a point, but one has to think for a second, perhaps he does have a hidden interest but is way too afraid to say or do anything.
no, I'm sure, I'm not gay.
well, my point stands it's always a possibility. didn't know the poster was referrring to you..
I think it's totally normal. Society is getting better with this, but what is wrong with close human contact, and no, I don't always mean in a sexual way. And, just because guys give guys hugs doesn't mean they're gay. Like I said, they don't have to be sexual.
Exactly. Totally agree.
So long as you're not the creeper that meets a person and within five minutes attempts to hug them even if they're clearly uncomfortable with the idea, you're doing fine. Most people, once they're familiar with someone, like to give and receive hugs. It's affectionate, after all.
Agreed with Miss M. It's annoying that our society automatically thinks that a man who is comfortable with hugging other men is gay. I personally think it's good that men are being taught it's okay to show physical affection. Of course, that has appropriate and inappropriate lines, no matter what gender you are, as Miss M pointed out. But as long as those boundaries are respected, I think it's cool.
I won't say it's wrong but on the other hand, I'm not up for that. my mind isn't accepting to hug my same gender.
Raaj.
I also think it's great that guys are getting over the stigma of hugging and am sad that society, at least in America, has to catch up to the idea a bit. I'm normally not a hugger myself but if done respectfully, it can't hurt. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it's also far more accepted in Europe.
Call me the old stodge or whatever, but I see kids saying 'love you' or girls calling each other 'dear' and stuff, and that's just weird. I mean go for it, I guess, but that's kinda reserved for special people, I think anyway.
The one thing I don't like is gropy guys. I can't describe it any other way, but kinda gropy and it's all friendly to them. No, I don't think they're gay and I'm not gay, it's just to me sort of forcing their mode of affection on me. If I saw my brother come back to the states after being deployed, we'd hug yes, but we see each other every few years. However, I don't feel that way about someone who's in my social circle but not really a family member or really close.
And no, I don't think we men have to do it to show we are sensitive enough for hugging or something, it's just like anything else, it has meaning. All of this stuff gets co-opted to be used by groups with agendas on how they think the world in general and people in particular should be. Too bad; the world is what it is, and people are who they are.
True, but you can't deny that social norms and society's expectations have alot to do with how people act towards one another. So they may feel compelled to stop doing something that may be in their nature.
So? What is nature? And isn't it equally the case that people are conforming by supposedly not conforming? In order for humans to work as groups - which is how we've worked for the last several million years - people compromise something of what they want in order to fit in. Even primates do it.
Leo if that's the case, then they have the right to occasionally be close. If it's not your preference don't hugs some people. But I was reading an article that sed people do it based on there emotional levels and stuff. Like if they grow up whith offection, or didn't receve much there more likely to hug people.
I'm not very affectionate. I don't usually hug anyone.
I don't hug just anyone. if I consider you to be someone I'm close to, I will...other than that, forget it.
yeah. I agree. Hugging is not my method of saying "hi". It's my method of saying "I missed you, and it's great to see you". Having said that, there is a difference between friendly hugs and creepy hugs, and I have no problem with friendly hugs.
Guys hug and it is not gay at all. Now personally I don't hug other guys but I see nothing wrong with it at all.
The only time I hugged a guy besides "I'm glad to see you" was when I got accepted into my college music department. My flute teacher came out and told me, I was really surprised, and I went over to him and gave him a hug. He's like, "Ok, I'll give you a hug". And he did. My transition coordinator from high school told me it's not professional. Who cares what that stupid idiot thinks? Besides, he didn't care. Not to mention, he's like a foot and a half taller than me! Yikes! My dad calls him the giant, and he doesn't understand how he can play flute.
i don't know, i mean, if guys wanna hug guys, then so be it. :D
i personally have to know you a bit before hugging you, and i believe all the posters saying that people who don't recieve a lot of affection when they are young hug more often, which is definitely true in my case.
agree with Alicia